Assuming a Gender Identity

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Question. Are you intersex?

No.

If not then can you say that you are biologically male?

Yes, I am biologically male. I am not transgender either.

So maybe your gender identity is more towards the middle than the male or female extremes. And assuming that you are not intersex, you can exist as, function as and present yourself as a cisgendered man and it's not causing you undue suffering (correct me if I am wrong here).

I don’t particularly suffer being treated as a cisgender male, other than some small annoyances, such as not being allowed in non-binary permitted fitting rooms, or when taking my daughter to her dr. appointments, that it’s because my wife couldn’t, or being treated as secondary in raising her in these situations. I prefer to be called He. I also see myself as the head of the household, which both me and my wife prefer, as the protector, disciplinarian, etc.. or in other words a more traditional patriarchal position with in the family dynamic.

So you might not identify with the demands placed on your gender by your culture, but do you relate to other people of your same biological sex? Do you think and act in the same way? Lots of men prefer the company of women. That doesn't mean to say that they have the same innate values, drives or mentality though. Only you can determine if you identify as male or female or as neither.

These are not easy questions when you are the one living your life. You can't expect a complete stranger to know.

I think i relate to both, and think and act in ways relating to both, i share values commonly associated with both genders, have drives and a mentality commonality associated with both genders.

When I think of the question. I think out a list of all the traditional identifications of male and female gender roles and identify, on this list maybe I’m 60/40 Male/Female. And my list probably sounds crude, but I don’t know another one I can appeal to that maps out the various aspects of the male/female identity dichotomy.

So on my list, cooking, kitchen upkeep, washing dishes, being the primacy care taker of my daughter, preference for aesthetics, a disinterest in watching sports, openness in discussing ones feelings and inner life, comfortability with females more than males, etc… All fall into the traditional female identity, as opposed to the traditional male identity.

I take on a variety of traditional female roles, that are embedded into my sense of personal identify. Perhaps some people will be offended that I openly associate these elements with females rather than males, but again I’m only referring to the traditional markers, not to how these things might differ in our modern politically correct interpretations of what these elements mean.

Perhaps it would be easier if we had some agreed up definitions and criteria as to what elements fall into the traditional male/female dichotomy, or else I think my distinctions are accurate.