(February 12, 2019 at 12:13 pm)Gae Bolga Wrote: Oh shut up Yon, lol. How a person decides to interact with their parents is their own decision to make. It's as unilateral as the parents decision to force the issue to this sort of terminus.
In any case, Der, IDK that anyone ever really stops their relationship with their parents so much as changes the parameters. Only you, or whomever we're talking about, can decide whether or not the person in question is worth that sort of a change. I know that I wouldn't give anyone in my family the time of day if they couldn't accept my wife. If I got an invite to dinner that didn't include her, well...I hope they didn't make more food than they could eat themselves, because I'm not going. That's just the way it is.
Hell, my grandparents once gave me shit for bringing "the wrong sort of girl" into their house - so they didn't see me or hear from me again for roundabouts four years. Don't get me wrong, love em to death - we have a great relationship and always have. They had their lines and I have mine. I'll say this..parents..in general, soften over time..at least with respect to their own children..even if their views calcify otherwise, lol. The love we have for our kids is usually enough to overcome whatever hate or implicit bias we carry.
Did you stay away from your grandparents for your own good, or did you stay away to punish them? It's the difference between taking care of yourself or being a vindictive asshole. No one likes people who think vindictively (once they realize that the person thinks vindictively).
We do not inherit the world from our parents. We borrow it from our children.
