I think @pocaracas sold me on this point, I think it's put very well in these two quotes
It will encourage them in the short term, because the reason they use it is to get a reaction. They'll keep escalating to get the reaction because they're not being rational but reactionary. If you keep feeding them reactions I see it as the same as continuing to bend the rules for your kids. Give an inch it fuels their reason for doing it and proves they can get what they want if they push hard enough, also fortifying their belief that escalation is rational. The reasons should be what's addressed. The actions should be immediately curtailed and sources addressed.
Quote:If you are to change society, that is to change all bullies, ignoring them is one of the best ways to silence them forever.
Quote:Keep giving them the spotlight, keep reacting to their insults, keep applauding those who react to those insults, and you'll keep reinforcing the bully attitude.
(April 29, 2019 at 6:24 am)BrianSoddingBoru4 Wrote: Then again, it might just encourage them. If they think they can use the word with impunity (which is what you're suggesting), might that not lead them to stronger language and stronger actions?
So...empower that attitude?
It will encourage them in the short term, because the reason they use it is to get a reaction. They'll keep escalating to get the reaction because they're not being rational but reactionary. If you keep feeding them reactions I see it as the same as continuing to bend the rules for your kids. Give an inch it fuels their reason for doing it and proves they can get what they want if they push hard enough, also fortifying their belief that escalation is rational. The reasons should be what's addressed. The actions should be immediately curtailed and sources addressed.
Quote:I would like nothing better to live in a violence-free world, where everyone is rational, whether there are no bullies, and hate speech is a shameful reminder of our forgotten past.I was about to commend you till I reached this ridiculousness, and I don't mean the unicorns. We never just deal with anything as it is. Observing something changes it. Everything we see and do is affected by us and affects us. You are either making it worse or better. Not doing anything is an action. You have to look at your own house and see if you're really promoting what you believe will make things better or not. Have you bullied? Do you bandy for irresponsible/hateful free speech? Do you promote emotionalism/irrationality that leads to violence? Not to say you do any of these things, because it's not my place to judge and frankly I'm too busy to do the research. They're just some questions, not just for you but for all.
Then again, I'd also like to live in a world where unicorns fart rainbows and puke leprechaun gold. But until that happens, I'll deal with the world as it is.
Boru
"There ought to be a term that would designate those who actually follow the teachings of Jesus, since the word 'Christian' has been largely divorced from those teachings, and so polluted by fundamentalists that it has come to connote their polar opposite: intolerance, vindictive hatred, and bigotry." -- Philip Stater, Huffington Post
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