(May 13, 2019 at 2:47 am)Mathilda Wrote:(May 13, 2019 at 12:40 am)EgoDeath Wrote: Years of therapy will teach you that the only real way to deal with past trauma is to not focus on it. However it's one things to '"know" this logically and another thing entirely to "feel" it as a truth in your life.
Up until very recently I would have agreed with you. This is how I have moved on with my life and it was the only way I survived. But now the memories are resurfacing again I realise that I have just been suppressing my emotions rather than dealing with the underlying trauma and it has been affecting me in ways I did not appreciate. I've started going to counselling for the first time in my life and it's like I have just everything on hold for 20 years. Once I process everything, then I can stop focusing on it again.
That was my original point, but yes, good for you. Therapy, for me, has ultimately been about getting everything out, gaining some new perspectives on a couple things that have bothered me, and then learning to not focus on the negatives. That's all we can really do. Life is all about where we focus our energy.
If you're frightened of dying, and you're holding on, you'll see devils tearing your life away. But if you've made your peace, then the devils are really angels, freeing you from the Earth.
