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RE: We need a fridge
October 13, 2011 at 4:23 pm
(October 13, 2011 at 4:05 pm)Cinjin Wrote: Just out of curiosity, besides holding down a job, what else does a man have to do in your opinion to "pull his own weight?"

(there's no wrong answer to this inquiry)

Helping out around the house. This sounds basic, but didn't even enter into my ex's brain. His mother was a stay-at-home mom who of course could spend all day cooking and cleaning. It's not that I minded coming home and doing chores and cooking - I do that now on the nights I don't have school. What I had a problem with was when he would get bitchy because such-and-such wasn't done, or that I worked longer hours than he did (wtf, he said he couldn't support us both alone), that I didn't "spend any time with him," blah blah blah.

1) The economy isn't great, and I took the first office job I could so I could start making money - at the time so we could start saving for our first house. It was a good job - certainly more stimulating mentally and creatively than the one I've got. I paid for a good amount of expenses, considering he made half-again as much as I did.

2) When I come home from work, there are only so many hours in a night to get everything done. It doesn't kill you to see that the dishes need to be done and load the washer. Or to switch a load of laundry. I'm not the kind of woman who demands the beds be made and all that shit - just basic things. If you want me to spend more time with you (you know, besides being under your feet in an apartment all night), help out a smidge.

3) "Spending time" together means I don't always have to do what you want to do, which meant going to his parents or grandparents house...every...fucking...weekend. I'm a fairly adventurous girl and will try just about anything except sky-diving and bunjee-jumping. If you want to do something...let's go do it. Or do something I suggest, and we'll spend time together. But I'm not going to your parents house and wasting the gas getting there to just sit on the couch and watch TV.

He seriously wasn't that bad before we moved, but once he had a live-in female it was like he reverted to 12 again. I can't take it. I can't afford to do half the things I want to right now, but I'm not a "sit at home" person and family drives me up the wall.
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We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 13, 2011 at 7:11 am
RE: We need a fridge - by frankiej - October 13, 2011 at 7:15 am
RE: We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 13, 2011 at 7:16 am
RE: We need a fridge - by frankiej - October 13, 2011 at 7:17 am
RE: We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 13, 2011 at 7:20 am
RE: We need a fridge - by KichigaiNeko - October 13, 2011 at 7:33 am
RE: We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 13, 2011 at 7:56 am
RE: We need a fridge - by KichigaiNeko - October 13, 2011 at 7:57 am
RE: We need a fridge - by Violet - October 13, 2011 at 10:18 am
RE: We need a fridge - by Cinjin - October 13, 2011 at 11:22 am
RE: We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 13, 2011 at 11:32 am
RE: We need a fridge - by Cinjin - October 13, 2011 at 12:07 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 12:18 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by 5thHorseman - October 13, 2011 at 12:53 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 12:41 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 12:59 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 1:03 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by 5thHorseman - October 13, 2011 at 1:03 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 1:18 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 1:20 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 1:23 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by 5thHorseman - October 13, 2011 at 3:50 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 3:54 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Cinjin - October 13, 2011 at 3:57 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 4:02 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Cinjin - October 13, 2011 at 4:05 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 4:23 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by 5thHorseman - October 13, 2011 at 4:27 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Jay1982 - October 13, 2011 at 1:24 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 1:51 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 1:49 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 1:52 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 1:53 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 1:55 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Jay1982 - October 13, 2011 at 2:09 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Cinjin - October 13, 2011 at 3:47 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 3:48 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Dotard - October 13, 2011 at 3:50 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Jay1982 - October 13, 2011 at 4:21 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 3:58 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 4:06 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 4:29 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by 5thHorseman - October 13, 2011 at 4:35 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 13, 2011 at 4:29 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Cinjin - October 13, 2011 at 4:44 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 13, 2011 at 4:52 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Phaedra - October 13, 2011 at 5:16 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 4:30 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by frankiej - October 13, 2011 at 4:30 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 13, 2011 at 4:31 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 4:46 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 5:19 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Phaedra - October 13, 2011 at 5:20 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 13, 2011 at 7:00 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Phaedra - October 13, 2011 at 8:35 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 14, 2011 at 12:29 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 5:21 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by The Grand Nudger - October 13, 2011 at 6:32 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 13, 2011 at 6:38 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by padraic - October 13, 2011 at 6:45 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 8:58 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Phaedra - October 13, 2011 at 9:21 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 13, 2011 at 9:24 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 14, 2011 at 12:31 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Napoléon - October 14, 2011 at 12:43 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Cinjin - October 14, 2011 at 2:02 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 14, 2011 at 2:13 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by thesummerqueen - October 14, 2011 at 2:15 pm
RE: We need a fridge - by Epimethean - October 14, 2011 at 2:16 pm



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