I'd be dead. I'd have no right to tell them how to grieve.
I would like them to respect some general wishes, though: no religious ceremonies, for example, and I'd rather be incinerated (though they CAN have my organs if they want them -- AFTER my friends and relatives are done with me, that is).
I would like them to respect some general wishes, though: no religious ceremonies, for example, and I'd rather be incinerated (though they CAN have my organs if they want them -- AFTER my friends and relatives are done with me, that is).