RE: what Does it Meam to be InLove?
August 29, 2019 at 1:15 pm
(This post was last modified: August 29, 2019 at 1:21 pm by Brian37.)
(August 29, 2019 at 9:26 am)Rhondazvous Wrote: Two guys have told me they loved me but weren’t in love with me. Why is it necessary to be in love? What does being in love do for a relationship? Even though these guys claimed they weren’t in love with me, I couldn’t see what was missing in the relationships I had with them.
"Love" isn't a simple word. I love the NFL, but fucking hate the corporate ads they are now projecting on the field.
I love my cat, but have no desire to have sex with my cat.
I love my late mother, to the point with her mobility problems, I would help her go to the bathroom, and even shower and clean her when she soiled herself.
If they say they love you, but are not in love with you, they merely mean you are only friend material.
Love of a hobby or pet, or loved one, is not the same as love of someone you really want to have a relationship with like boyfriend and girlfriend or husband and wife.
I can say however, I had far too many merely physical attractions in my teens and early 20s I did confuse for romantic love. I look back at that now and know it was just my hormones.
Point is, you cant force anyone to romantically love you. I stupidly in my youth thought that by merely being attracted to them, they had some obligation to feel the same. If romance worked like that, I would have married the first female I found attractive. Ann McCarthy the cheerleader I pined after was actually scared away by my pining.
Romantically, the only person I was in love with was my X Wife. I really wish it had worked out, but people change over time. I hold no ill will to her leaving me. I simply value the time I had while we were together.
