(October 18, 2011 at 3:19 pm)Loading Please Wait Wrote: Huge thumbs up to frodo, I don't agree with everything, I'll leave it at that but you got some big respect from me.Thanks bud appreciated.
The reason I posted this is because my girlfriend is a Christian. She is not a hardcore fundamentalist Christian, but she believes in the basic values and she is a very kind and understanding woman. The thing is though, she told me that she is going to hell because we've had sex outside of marriage, which is a huge sin to her religion. When meeting her family last Sunday, one of her older aunts made sure to let me know if she got pregnant outside of marriage she would not support her, myself or our child.
I plan on marrying this girl, I know things change, but I would honestly be there for our child(ren) through everything.
My girlfriend took it hard that her family would disown her because of sex outside of marriage. Who exactly is this hurting? My point was, who are the victims in victimless crimes? Maybe I should have made a thread about victimless crimes instead.
I don't see how sex outside of marriage (which is pleasure and emotional and brings couples closer together), getting angry with someone and not hurting them in any way, eating blood from meat, getting a tattoo, and something as simple as wearing clothes of the opposite gender could be considered a sin, and could result in one going to hell.
I wouldn't condemn anyone, especially younger people, following their sexual desires. That's how we're built and marriage is a confirmation of a love between 2 people IMO and not what comes first. Marriage is only a peice of paper. The committment is what it's about, and you don't need no piece of paper for that.
You're showing committment already that supercedes that shit.
People sin most of the time as far as I can see. It's how we're built, and why, in the lingo, we need forgiving. No one gets a free pass into heaven, and no one is damned forever. If you make a mistake that isn't going to matter either way in the grand scheme of things, so your GF saying that, to me, is unbiblical.
I personally hold the opinion that sex and love are inseperable. I know loads of ppl here disagree with me on that. I think we're monogamous. You may argue otherwise. For that reason, however, I think that recreational sex fuks with your emotional side. For that reason I can see the families point... then again making a religious point out of that strips it of all meaning. Just My opinion.