The Ramble from my Intro

[Abaddon_ire]

You're going through something really difficult. I hope it can work out with love in the long run, whatever the conclusion is.

BS. Real people fall out of love just as easily as they fall into it. Why? Because people change. People learn new things.

I could tell you some tales about that. Oddly, none of them cite Acquinas, or Plato, or Aristotle, or any of those fossils. All of them cite real people alive right now with real problems. I help them. For free. Because I am just that nice.

You would prefer to fill yourself on musty old fossils of philo-baloney. Good luck with that. For me, I am content to help family, friends and even total strangers as best I can. It seems to me that this is uninteresting to you.

I hope my wife wouldn’t be that vindictive, I don’t see her being that way. And I realize that most of this doom and gloom could be stemming from my feeling guilty about hiding my beliefs for several years.

This is a kind of unknown for us, which makes any advice we give you fairly random. We don't know how your wife might react. Obviously she must have many good qualities, or you wouldn't have married her in the first place. 

I do. In divorce situations it is common for the nasty to start on both sides. It gets really stupid, really fast. This occurs in the majority of cases. In my case, I got financially raped. I thought it was just me. Afterward, I found out it wasn't just me and that there are support groups for such. My ex took everything and left me homeless. For two fucking years. Thanks, bitch.

It's clear that you care for your kids very much.

I love my kids very much. My eldest is now an adult legally. I have no further obligation. I will still support the little shit any way I can, but I will no longer have to chuck buckets of cash at her. I will from now on hurl it at him.

They are too young to understand religious differences, but old enough to be aware if mommy and daddy hate each other.

BS. Mine have been discussing religious baloney for at least 10 years. We actually have bible readings. I read and ask their opinions. Without fail, they say "that's nuts" without prompting. I do it intentionally because I know what BS the magic book is and I wanted them to know it too. By reading what it actually says.

I hope your wife can at least stay calm about things, in order to avoid upsetting them. 

Not gonna happen.

You can't control what she does, but you can control your own actions.

So OP should be a slave? Do you even hear yourself?

I would say that if you ever get to the point of telling your wife to go fuck herself, that's a sign you've failed. I would hate to ever be that bitter. 

And you would be wrong. It was the most liberating experience I have ever had. Suddenly the shackles were released and I had the freedom to be myself. Suddenly I learned that I could be the nice helpful guy without being commanded by a loony virago as to how to respond to anything.

Good luck to you.

That's a flat out lie. You do not wish him any luck at all.