Why Why?

[Mister Agenda]

Most people have little interest in a "friend" who can't think of any reason to see them.  Friendship implies attachment and a desire to be in another persons presence.  Someone should have explained this to you when you were a very small child.

A selfish and self centered person commenting on their complete lack of that while professing to have redeeming or endearing qualities can only be talking about how they feel endeared and redeemed...to themselves.  Others may not see you how you see yourself.  Add in the not trusting people kicker and you have a description of a friendless asshole who has no friends because they don;t know how to make friends.  Who can't connect with other people on shared apprehensions and experiences, like that desire for intimate connection...because they don't have any.

-but don't worry, a special friend in the sky loves you, sees your endearing and redeeming qualities, and thinks that everyone else is [insert a stream of invective here] - just like you.  Another poster suggested that you saw social value in this place, in your interaction here.  That's the sort of generous assumption a normal person who can't understand why you signed up would make, huh?

I could have used someone explaining attachment to me when I was a kid. By the time I graduated HS and joined the USAF, I had been moved 50 times. Military service continued that trend. When I got out I kept bouncing for about 10 more years. I was very shy and I was 36 before I broke my record of 5 years in the same State. When I applied to my current company, I needed extra pages to list all the jobs I'd had in the previous 5 years because I moved so much and couldn't list anyone not a relative I had known more than a year (as in still knew how to contact them). Because of that background I had no idea of how to maintain a long-term relationship and I was 53 before I was in a romantic relationship that lasted more than a year.

So I was handicapped in the attachment department, I saw friendships as temporary, easy come/easy go, and girlfriends as the same. Eventually I learned how to manage long-term relationships, but a therapist could probably have helped me shorten my learning curve a lot.

I hope Ahriman doesn't have to flounder with relationships for decades like I did