[split] Ethics - parental responsibility re: children

[arewethereyet]

I don't owe them anything they want right now, let alone for the rest of their lives.  Those little shits will take what they get and don't throw a fit or else.

I owe them food. I owe them shelter.  I owe them affection.  I owe them an education.  I owe them a trade.  Some of these debts expire - but can be extended at my leisure (and will be as long as I can manage it) into perpetuity.  One day, they'll owe me some place to curl up and die - but I don't plan on sending a collections agent if they refuse - and that..will be the end of that.  All debts, real and potential, satisfied.

You're just selfish.

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Really?  

Seriously, you need to have your meds adjusted.  You are delusional.

How much of an effort do you make to provide your children with what they want/need?

I raised them....fed, clothed, educated them and taught them some life skills.  They are adults who are capable of earning what they want/need now.

Oldest makes more than I ever have in a year.  Son has been at the same job about 14 years and was recently promoted. He owns his own house.  Middle one figures it out and doesn't want help from ANYONE.

I'm here, and they know where to find me.

Apparently I didn't screw up too bad since the oldest is here about once a week and calls frequently between visits.  Son calls when he need advice on important stuff.  Middle one doesn't want help from ANYONE.

They are 45, 40, and nearly 35...been out of the nest a long time.