[split] Ethics - parental responsibility re: children

[Ahriman]

You're just selfish.

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How much of an effort do you make to provide your children with what they want/need?

I raised them....fed, clothed, educated them and taught them some life skills.  They are adults who are capable of earning what they want/need now.

Oldest makes more than I ever have in a year.  Son has been at the same job about 14 years and was recently promoted. He owns his own house.  Middle one figures it out and doesn't want help from ANYONE.

I'm here, and they know where to find me.

Apparently I didn't screw up too bad since the oldest is here about once a week and calls frequently between visits.  Son calls when he need advice on important stuff.  Middle one doesn't want help from ANYONE.

They are 45, 40, and nearly 35...been out of the nest a long time.

Well that's nice. Really, it is. Thanks for sharing. But what about a person who is mentally ill and can't be reliably expected to provide for themselves and won't ever amount to anything because that's just not the kind of person they are? Surely it would be cruel/unfair/selfish to just throw that person to the wolves and not provide for them, right?