I appreciate and applaud the fact you consider divorce a last resort. My wife and I infuriate the begesus out of each other and we believe the same thing. In a mairrage , I think it happens. Whether it's over idiosyncrasies, beliefs over kids, parenting, in-laws or deeper personal beliefs, your willingness to work on it together is admirable.
My advice would be to work on building mutual respect and admiration in other areas, deepening the trust and love you already share. Then you can set up argument rules about heated topics like religion, like cool off time and safe words. Then I suggest you definately talk out your beliefs so each of you understands where each is coming from and what you guys plan to do in the future (including kids, funerals, etc.). Bottom line, belief should not be a deal breaker, unless it means your life plans are incompatible down the road. That kind of stuff should only be discussed with a deep trust and weathered love, IMO.
My advice would be to work on building mutual respect and admiration in other areas, deepening the trust and love you already share. Then you can set up argument rules about heated topics like religion, like cool off time and safe words. Then I suggest you definately talk out your beliefs so each of you understands where each is coming from and what you guys plan to do in the future (including kids, funerals, etc.). Bottom line, belief should not be a deal breaker, unless it means your life plans are incompatible down the road. That kind of stuff should only be discussed with a deep trust and weathered love, IMO.
"There ought to be a term that would designate those who actually follow the teachings of Jesus, since the word 'Christian' has been largely divorced from those teachings, and so polluted by fundamentalists that it has come to connote their polar opposite: intolerance, vindictive hatred, and bigotry." -- Philip Stater, Huffington Post
always working on cleaning my windows- me regarding Johari
always working on cleaning my windows- me regarding Johari
