Inceldom

[GrandizerII]

A) Lack of skills?  How would this be assessed, and what does this mean exactly?

Lack of social skills basically.

Examples: Not knowing how to communicate properly with people. Not listening. Only talking about themselves. Not paying attention to certain cues. Not knowing how to communicate without coming off as creepy. And so on.

Or maybe they have great social skills generally, but freeze up and panic when talking to women they find attractive.

B) Luck and right place right time?  Do you think it could be,then, that some people have all the right skills and attitude and looks etc, but simply never be at the right place and right time?  How would this be measured? How would someone know it was a bad luck issue and not a bad looks issue? And how could this be solved?

Some people are more dedicated than others to meet new people, find prospective dates, go to social parties regularly, and so on. In a somewhat ironic sense, they are more desperate for connections or relationships (but they alleviate that in fairly productive ways). Contrast this with people who are also desperate for relationships, but won't put themselves out there.

It's about increasing the odds of landing a relationship.

C) Focused on peoplenot compatible with you?  What does this mean, exactly?  People seem to have little to no control over who they find attractive, so how does this get changed?

I don't claim to know how this can be changed. Just noting my observations.

Compatible with you just means you work best with them and they work best with you, you both are attracted to each other in some meaningful way to the point that you're both mutually willing to spend a long time together and do all sorts of things together. And you both want the same kind of connection together:

Often times though, guys tend to go for the types of girls who don't match them in that way, and then this thing called "friend zone" happens.

D) What advice would you give someone who was confident, social adept, wasn't focused on a specific type, and was highly socially active, yet had been repeatedly rejected and told they were physically ugly?

The same advice I've been giving this whole time. You may have been bullied and teased for your looks, but it doesn't mean everyone finds you ugly. It doesn't mean you have no hope of being romantically/sexually involved with a human being who is willing to share their love with you and be intimate with you. It's the insistence that it must be your looks that is hindering you from getting into a relationship with someone, not your looks themselves.

By the way, victims of bullying tend to be seen as easy targets for bullying, and that is the main reason they unfortunately get bullied. Even here, ugliness isn't the main reason. But bullies will use all sorts of hurtful words just to hurt you. Again, here it's deeper than looks.

And there are nasty people in the adult world as well. But none of them need to dictate for you whether you have any hope of someone being attracted to you.