When talking to incels and BPers, one thing that crops up repeatedly is that a key thing that makes them bitter and hopeless is the failure of others to recognise the truth and extent of their plight.
Often they are told that that it's not their looks but their personality that is the issue. Or that having a relationship doesn't matter. Or that they are guilty of some moral failing in being lonely and suffering.
I think it perhaps more appropriate, and empathic, to acknowledge the seriousness of their pain, and to see unattractiveness somewhat like a disability. I think the general response they get from most people to be unhelpful at best. And I think that lack of sympathy increases rhein vulnerability to radicalisation, which makes things worse for everyone.
Often they are told that that it's not their looks but their personality that is the issue. Or that having a relationship doesn't matter. Or that they are guilty of some moral failing in being lonely and suffering.
I think it perhaps more appropriate, and empathic, to acknowledge the seriousness of their pain, and to see unattractiveness somewhat like a disability. I think the general response they get from most people to be unhelpful at best. And I think that lack of sympathy increases rhein vulnerability to radicalisation, which makes things worse for everyone.
