Inceldom

[GrandizerII]

@GrandizerII

He may well be in a relationship.  The point is, though, is that he is ugly and that his looks will be the key thing that makes his dating life hard.

I do think that your view being such that cannot even allow for the possibility that some will be lonely primarily because of their looks to a cruel, victim-blaming form of toxic positivitity.  It also suggests that you will focus solutions on things other than their looks, which I think k is doing them a disservice.  Surely if you had a magic wand and could only change one thing to help them most it would be to make them good looking? I can't see any other action as being the one in their best interests.

Have we gotten so soft the past couple of decades that if we're saying it's not their looks that's hindering them from a relationship but their mindset, then this becomes victim-blaming and cruel?

And no, if I had a magic wand, I'd fix their mindset first thing. Because that's more important to fix. You're operating on the assumption that the central premise of Black Pillism is true, while I'm not. And I have stated why already.

I think it's just easy to blame one's failures on one's looks or whatever else they feel they can't control at all than on something they can do something about. Because that would mean they would have to accept they are the ones failing, not something attached to them. And people generally have a hard time accepting that.