Inceldom

[GrandizerII]

Have we gotten so soft the past couple of decades that if we're saying it's not their looks that's hindering them from a relationship but their mindset, then this becomes victim-blaming and cruel?

And no, if I had a magic wand, I'd fix their mindset first thing. Because that's more important to fix. You're operating on the assumption that the central premise of Black Pillism is true, while I'm not. And I have stated why already.

I think it's just easy to blame one's failures on one's looks or whatever else they feel they can't control at all than on something they can do something about. Because that would mean they would have to accept they are the ones failing, not something attached to them. And people generally have a hard time accepting that.

If you are already equating trauma, loneliness, social ostracisation and so on with 'being soft', then yes, I'd say you were being cruel.

When did I do that? I think you're getting so overwhelmed by the many responses here at this time, you're not reading me correctly anymore. So maybe go take a short break or something and come back here when you're refreshed.