Inceldom

[Thumpalumpacus]

I know I am unattactive. That I do not possess a single redeeming quality. There isn't anything I bring to the table, that I make everything worse.

Not sure if serious or just being facetious. Either way, assuming you're serious, you being attractive or not is for other people to decide. You are not necessarily the final arbiter of all truths regarding yourself.

And this is something I want to pound into people like FF's heads since that Black Pill thread. Failing to land a romantic/sexual relationship with someone is because of lack of skills, lack of opportunity, lack of self-confidence, lack of self-esteem, fear of rejection, being too safe, being too focused on specific types of people that aren't compatible with you, etc. Many reasons. Not having exceptionally good looks, however, is not generally one of them.

Sure, if you are an exceptionally good looking man, you will probably have far more sex and flings than your typical guy. And maybe far more success in general. But being average looking isn't the curse that Black Pillers make it out to be. The real curse is what's often associated with having average looks: the stuff I mentioned in my previous paragraph. Yes, it's partly luck, because you have to put yourself out there and be in the right places at the right time. And you have to get out of your comfort zone, which can be quite stressful. But if you want a relationship, and especially if you're a guy, you have to do some work on yourself and how you interact with other people. I'm not even talking just about the stereotypical incels at this point.

An average-looking guy myself, I only had to get over my fear of rejection. That paralyzed me when I was a teen, but after dealing with more serious stuff, I realized that a simple "no" wasn't going to kill me.

My mom gave me the best woman advice ever: "Tell them how you feel about them, and let them answer. They will, one way or the other, give you a reply." But you have to be able to hear "no" and not get butthurt. It's really not that goddamned hard. Do not take counsel in your fears. The ability to love requires the ability to lay yourself vulnerable.

And in an answer that might go into FF's "what's a real man" thread, a real man (read -- a real adult, male or female) ain't afraid to lay it on the line, win, lose, or draw.