Empathy is the best tool

[Alan V]

The great thing about secularism is that it doesn’t rely on fear, conversion quotas, or hidden agendas. It’s grounded in intellectual honesty.
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If you’re secular, you don’t have a divine command telling you how to treat others. You probably ground your ethics in humanism, empathy, or some kind of utilitarian concern. That means the way you communicate matters. Being right isn’t enough. Being understood is more powerful, and that starts by making others feel understood first.

Atheists don't have "divine command," but we have intellectual honesty to guide us, as you say. So as far as I am concerned, my biggest obligation to other people is to be as accurate as possible. I let the chips fall where they may, since I don't have any conversion quota to meet, again as you say.

Some people may not know what to do in situations in which they are not being emotionally manipulated, but I think that's their problem to resolve.