Truce

[Rokcet Scientist]

Who just lays there?

Once you're out of the starting gate just grab the nearest erogenous zone and give it your best effort. However, imo nobody should be expected to do or accept anything they don't want or like. No pressure. At all. None. The atmosphere must be totally relaxed. With the exception of sexual tension of course!

It's really not much different than the lead-in to a one-on-one date.

So to avoid awkward moments later it's important to have a good idea in advance what your partner(s) like and don't like. Sex-wise. In bed. (Or elsewhere if you're so inclined... ). Techniques, positions... Talk about it. Be candid. Watch pr0n movies together. Ask them to select their favs too. Listen to their comments on the vids. Or visit online sexshops together. And talk about it. About all that gear, and what you could do with it. Reactions will give you a good idea of the others' 'hotspots' and limits. And vice versa. While nothing actually has yet happened. So you, and they, are still completely uncommitted and free to reconsider. To 'pull out', as it were. Before anything has really started.

You've got to build these things up.

But chances are that one thing will lead to another. As things tend to.