RE: How to avoid losing respect for friends
April 15, 2012 at 3:05 pm
(This post was last modified: April 15, 2012 at 3:12 pm by compass.)
(April 15, 2012 at 1:56 pm)RaphielDrake Wrote: You give him a cold, hard stare for about three seconds then you move on swiftly to a subject thats less controversial.
If he has all the facts you have then that makes his ignorance a result of indoctrination and that means he will either break free of it by choice or he will continue to believe it. If he pursues the conversation with you then thats a window hes opening and you can feel free to debate him on it calmly but until then; leave it.
The trouble is he doesn't have the facts that I have. The reason he doesn't have the facts is because (like many people) he resists studying the facts. I assume that to be the case because evolution is one of the most tried and tested theories I can think of, impossible to refute when looked at in detail I would say.
(April 15, 2012 at 2:05 pm)Insanity x Wrote: Just don't dwell on that part of who he is. I have a great friend who has Nazi views. I was shocked when I found out but he's still the person I get along with regardless of some of his views. We even have heated discussions about it from time to time but after were done we go back to normal. I like to think he's slowly getting better from this process.
Thank you. I want to get to that point because I know I shouldn't judge someone on one aspect of their personality. For some reason I am struggling with this a lot.
The only way I can explain it is this, imagine your friend denied that magnets are attracted to metal. No matter how many times you tried to show him the evidence, he simple laughed, refused to test magnets and considered YOU to be closed minded. How do you enjoy such a persons company?
Whilst that is an extreme example, it is not too far off of this situation. I have friends who believe in magpies predicting the future, yet have done no research into the myth. Are they Lazy? Arrogant? Stupid?
