How to not be desperate for a gf?

[jackman]

they're going for the money or fame

Well, these too, are qualities on their own, but moreover, they are results of other qualities.
For example, a good education, successful job, a handsome face and a nice body, or simply inheritance.
People understand that money and fame come from the clever use of personal qualities. This is why they are attracted to people who have money and fame.

perhaps you could google terrell owens, nicholas cage, mike tyson, dorothy hamil, gary busey, junior seau ... and tell me what went wrong. they were all big stars and are now piss broke. celeb dies, body falls apart, looks decline, money disappears. after that, what? these people are doing fine when the money is there, but when the cameras go away, more and more of them are starting to realize they can't cope on their own. if you're a celeb stalker for superficial reasons, then you get what you have coming to you.