How to not be desperate for a gf?

[Ace Otana]

I generally don't like to spend too much time with girls I want as a giirlfriend.

In my mind, I look at this as I would look at a plant. Sorry if my metaphor is a bit too harsh sounding for people, but I'm sure that girls use similar metaphors for us males.

What's wrong with having girls as friends? I have quite a few girls who are very good friends of mine. We never do anything sexual nor speak of anything of sex or getting into some sort of relationship. Just regular friends. Like male friends really.

You would not want to water a plant too much. If you do that, it will die.
Similarly, if you maintain a relationship that is too friendly with someone, that someone will eventually kill any feelings that could go beyond friendship with you.

Total nonsense. I was friends with Katie for months, after all that time, feelings were developing and we ended up kissing in the end. Never intended to go that far but did because we felt the feelings and it felt right.

Of course, if she does have such feelings. If not, it will just make matters worse, and could even lead to the girl denouncing you either private or in public.

Love is a risky game and you can get a little hurt if the other lacks the feelings you have, but that's love for you. If I like someone, I would always go for friendship first. Allows time for each other to learn and understand each other. With mutual respect you should have no trouble coming to some kind of agreement whatever that agreement is.

I personally, am an impatient man when it comes to relationships. If I call a girl out to meet with me, and she gives me an answer that doesn't satisfy me, I generally write her off. She certainly does not show the same enthusiasm in meeting eachother as I do.

I am patient, however if the other did not show any interest I would let it go before any strong feelings develop. Save yourself the pain sort of thing.