(September 12, 2012 at 7:34 pm)TaraJo Wrote: Well, I was thinking more that I have a manly looking face and from shoulders up, the best I can hope to look like is a moderately-attractive but obvious tranny. I need to find some way to prove to myself I look like something else, I just don't know how. Intellectually, I know that probably isn't true, but on an emotional level...... Fuck you, low self esteem!
Luckily, the people who can instantly spot the common transperson are usually transpeople themselves. We know what we're looking for, and we are constantly comparing ourselves to our cisgendered peers.
If you pass, that's really as far as it 'needs' to go... plenty of fish aren't blessed with beauty, so it's not as though you particularly stand out. Some unfortunate transpeople look *very much* like they are in a midway stage. I don't think you should waste your empathy on yourself here, you're fine.
If it *really* is getting to you emotionally though... there is always FFS, and also vocal surgery, which you might consider.
Please give me a home where cloud buffalo roam
Where the dear and the strangers can play
Where sometimes is heard a discouraging word
But the skies are not stormy all day
