(September 22, 2012 at 8:48 pm)TaraJo Wrote:(September 22, 2012 at 8:43 pm)aleialoura Wrote: When I married my gay best friend, she called me "fag lover", and a "freak of nature", because we were in love with each other, though not sexually involved.
I don't know where she stands on all that stuff now. I didn't ask, because the situation didn't feel appropriate.
Good. Don't. I've seen how painful that kind of a shift can be; don't make it any more difficult for her than it has to be. Even though you're an atheist, you might consider looking up a GLBT friendly church for her to go to. They might be able to help her rectify her religious beliefs with her sexual orientation.
While I am for watering down religion for the perposes of civility, the fact remans that homonsexuality, in our evolution has been widely frowned upon in most cultures. It is because of a lack of understanding that homosexuality is merely a minority range outcome, but a quite nomral manifestation of human behavior.
Having said that, I really don't get people who get into a religion that for the most part demonizes a given group. It is nice that some people can find comfort with like minded people, but the history of Christianity, stems from a mesognistic past that even today frowns upon homosexuality.
I get the same lip twitch when blacks today, not all, but some, condemn same sex marriage knowing what they themselves went through in their history.
I found solice at one point in my life, in my early age of my atheism at a Unitarian Church. If there is any more liberal a religion, I cant think of one. I don't go anymore because I merely outgrew the need for self conformation in that context.
But it sounds like this lady has an upper hand being surrounded by acceptance.
