(October 8, 2012 at 8:05 pm)IATIA Wrote:(October 8, 2012 at 3:07 pm)Brian37 Wrote: If one is not captive it is not bullying.AMEN!
A bully is the kid that takes your lunch money everyday at school, not some cyber-freak on the net.
If I find someone online that I prefer not to communicate with, IGNORE. See, no more 'bully'.
This bullshit of 'cyber-bullies' driving some dumb fuck to suicide is ridiculous. There is a completely different issue in play with this scenario and I could rant on the stupidity of that fucking shit for pages on end. This country (America) has a very serious problem and it is not the bullies.
No it isn't that simple. I was bullied as a kid, my grade school years and highschool years were torture. So I can understand the net being even more of a weapon than the face to face street crap I endured.
It cant be all or nothing but only case by case.
In cyber bullying we are not talking about a rash of people who don't know each other. These things happen locally and the victim is still required by law to go to the school where the actuall face to face rectognition goes on, even if no one actually physically touches them.
My advice to those bullied, because I most certianly was, even before the age of the internet is simple. Dont let others define you. Stand up with your voice or ignore them. You define yourself, not even your family or friends have any right to do that. When you accept yourself and be yourself, it is less likely those who try to intimidate you can win.
I learned the hard way that responding to bullies, although unavoidable at times, more likely than not, the best option is to say "fuck you" even if it is only in your head.
The best cure for bullies is time. There will always be someone who accepts you for you. It may not feel like that at times, but especially when you get older, you eventually find that the politics of youth is all bullshit.
