Men and Women Can't Be "Just Friends"

[thesummerqueen]

Why does sexual attraction preclude friendship?

I'm very good friends with an Irish guy who I'd bang out of existence (we've both just decided never to be alone in the same room together), but we both have significant others and it doesn't seem to be distracting us from being supportive of each other in emotional and "friend" ways - you know, cracking jokes, helping each other on projects, helping each other through relationship troubles, blah de blah. I've had friends I've nailed as well that I'm still friends with.

I'm a woman. I like men. A select few of them fill certain parts of my heart that others don't. This doesn't mean we can't still support each other.

Is there some magical forcefield that prevents you from being friends ever again once penis has entered vagina?

I don't get along with most women, or at least don't form strong attachments to them. I'm too blunt, opinionated, and sarcastic for a lot of them to handle. But it seems to work fine with most of the men I know. (I've met a few exceptions to the rule on both sides)

For five years I didn't have a boyfriend - just lovers. I still talk to pretty much all of them - some more than others, but you know - life gets busy.