The War On Men

[Whateverist]

For the record, not that you asked, A Theist, I actually do all the cooking and most of the cleaning.

Hey, me too. Well, I do most of the cooking because we both enjoy eating it more than hers. And I now do most of the cleaning because she does the bills so that I never have to think about money other than to be sure she gets all my checks. Also I'm stepping it up in the cleaning department because she is 10 years more decrepit than I am and has more aches and pains, and because I'm a pussy whipped softie that way. In the bedroom however she likes the same roles our young Queen does and I enjoy the complimentary roles.

And that's the basis of having a happy marriage. Communication and understanding yourself and your partner, your desires and goals. It's about feeling like your efforts are reciprocated. It is NOT about fitting into defined patterns or socially accepted norms set up by people who don't know you and don't know your situation.

I'll second that. I'd sum up thusly: For marital happiness: know yourself, be as open about who you are with your spouse as you are with yourself and take the time to know her equally well or at least as well as she'll let you.


Okay A-Theist-chauvinist, ball in your court. Do have any actual wisdom of the sort just exhibited by our youngish queen to show for the 60ish years you've been using up oxygen? What have you been doing all those extra years? Hopefully you haven't just been looking for authoritative directions for achieving marital bliss .. you know, like Fox news and the bible.