Congratulations LP on staying the coarse and defeating the real enemy in your life, congratulations on being truthful with your wife. Some people fear truth, some cherish it, your wife's struggle with truth for what ever reason puts a hard ship on you, so for your own good spare her the truth yet never lie to her, again congrates on your courage.
God loves those who believe and those who do not and the same goes for me, you have no choice in this matter. That puts the matter of total free will to rest.