feeling very depressed that when i die i wont see my children again- how do i deal?

[Angrboda]

@whateverist: I think it's reasonable to err on the side of caution in a case like this. It sounds like the person is simply going through a perfectly typical grieving process over the loss of loved ones.

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Is your grief resolving naturally or has it become something more serious? If you are suffering and having trouble resolving your grief, I don't see any harm in trying to get assistance with that process. While I suspect, depending, it may be difficult to think of taking on additional things at a time like this, it may mean the difference in how long you have to suffer with these feelings. Others have suggested seeing a therapist or a doctor; even if there is nothing clinically wrong, and you are just grieving, they can help you move through that process more effectively. If you're not up to that, there are other options such as attending a grief support group, or even just reading a self-help book on grief (or reading up on it on the web). Whether this is or isn't a normal grief situation, there are things you can do that are equally applicable to both. Coming here and talking to others was one such step. Just keep making little steps.

Giving medical advice is frowned upon, but I'll touch upon a few simple things. During times of grief, your normal routine and activities may be disrupted and altered. Things like regular sleep, eating regular, staying active, and exercise are important components of keeping both* your body and your mind healthy. It may be hard to keep to these things during a time like this, but they will likely help you weather the storm better. (It's advised to minimize or avoid alcohol during such times, as alcohol is a depressant and so just intensifies the bad feelings. However, that's a very personal thing, so, enough said.)

In short: stay active, stay healthy, stay social; even if you've never been active or social prior, doing so now can pay dividends. (Even just a half hour walk.)

Anyway, bets of luck dealing with this.

(ETA: Oh, and imo, there are no right answers here. You'll handle it the way you handle it. People may want to give you simple answers, but you're facing questions that don't yield to simple answers. They're hard questions. They'll take hard answers.)