"She says she gave her consent and she's also enjoying herself; if that is the scenario, there's no abuse."
Enjoying herself seems pretty critical to this argument then. Suppose she enjoyed the foreplay but not the rest. Suppose she felt pressured into doing more than she wanted.
Suppose she enjoyed it at the time but later regretted it - suppose that happens years later when she realizes (or feels) that she was abused and coerced?
In other words - its a big if...
Enjoying herself seems pretty critical to this argument then. Suppose she enjoyed the foreplay but not the rest. Suppose she felt pressured into doing more than she wanted.
Suppose she enjoyed it at the time but later regretted it - suppose that happens years later when she realizes (or feels) that she was abused and coerced?
In other words - its a big if...