Americas child death shame

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When I was about four years old I decided, whilst walking to the store with my mom, that I did not want children. Ever. She was telling me all this heartwarming stuff about bearing children, because I asked about it, and I asked her immediately if there was a way to ensure I would not get pregnant. She told me about tubals and I said I was going to get that done. I also figured I wouldn't get married either, because fuck that.

My mom has been pretty decent about my decision, a lot of people though were pretty harsh to me especially when I was younger. It's hard too when I see the whole "having the capability to bear children" as something womanly, and I am nullgender (I am aware other non-cisgendered people take different views).

EDIT: I'd like to also say, usually it's women giving me the hardest time about this subject which I find fascinating.

My 7 year old is the same He had to do a time capsule for school and one of the questions was what kind of family he wanted when he grew up. He wrote that he wasn't going to get married or have babies (because babies are stinky and cry all the time). Then he drew a picture of himself lounging on a gigantic bed all alone, with a huge smile on his face. I'm sure his teacher thought that was odd, but we've assured him enough times that he can do whatever he wants with his life, and he's confident in that regard. I don't need to be a grandmother, just getting to see and experience my kids growing up is enough for me, they really are quite awesome

The mommy game is tough, and no one is tougher on moms than other moms. All of the mommy groups I've been to have issues with this in some way or another... Natural birth moms vs. interventionist birth moms. Breastfeeding vs. formula feeding. Night training vs. co-sleeping. Vaxing vs. not vaxing. Working moms vs. stay-at-home moms. And that's just the tip of the iceberg!
It's really sick that people feel the need to judge what is right or wrong for a family based on their personal experience. I've flat out been told by other moms that I'm a horrible mother because I vaxed my kids and breastfed them until they were 2 (in different circles of mommies).
Women are worse in this regard because they want you to join them... so they can judge you... Women can be bad about this, moreso then men in my experience.