RE: How shy are you?
November 25, 2013 at 9:49 pm
(This post was last modified: November 25, 2013 at 9:56 pm by Whateverist.)
I scored a 36, somewhat shy.
I was born shy, most especially toward the opposite sex. But I'm no longer a practicing shy person. My mother helped me see women as braving the sexual attentions of men for the purposes of procreation while taking no pleasure in the act whatsoever. (Thank god she was wrong - in most cases.) Now I'd say I am most comfortable in the company of women. I genuinely like them a lot and enjoy a little low level flirting.
While I can still feel uncomfortable in arenas where the other people are much wealthier, I no longer half expect to be discovered and thrown out -as I did when staying at the Ahwanhee in Yosemite before and after our wedding. I've also come to realize that rich people have some predictable issues too. Many have a hell of a time knowing what to do with their time when they don't need to make a living. It doesn't seem to satisfy them much.
Beyond one's ability to function in social situations, there is the degree to which one looks forward to them and feels energized by them. I'm still shy in that regard. I don't relish such situations but no longer dread them either. I need solitude to recharge, not interaction.
But when I was in school, answering a question before the class would make my chest tight and my mind fogged. There was a real feeling of uneasiness and panic about forgetting what I would say.
Now I have some appetite for social situations, probably always did really, and they cause me less panic. It's complicated.
I was born shy, most especially toward the opposite sex. But I'm no longer a practicing shy person. My mother helped me see women as braving the sexual attentions of men for the purposes of procreation while taking no pleasure in the act whatsoever. (Thank god she was wrong - in most cases.) Now I'd say I am most comfortable in the company of women. I genuinely like them a lot and enjoy a little low level flirting.
While I can still feel uncomfortable in arenas where the other people are much wealthier, I no longer half expect to be discovered and thrown out -as I did when staying at the Ahwanhee in Yosemite before and after our wedding. I've also come to realize that rich people have some predictable issues too. Many have a hell of a time knowing what to do with their time when they don't need to make a living. It doesn't seem to satisfy them much.
Beyond one's ability to function in social situations, there is the degree to which one looks forward to them and feels energized by them. I'm still shy in that regard. I don't relish such situations but no longer dread them either. I need solitude to recharge, not interaction.
But when I was in school, answering a question before the class would make my chest tight and my mind fogged. There was a real feeling of uneasiness and panic about forgetting what I would say.
Now I have some appetite for social situations, probably always did really, and they cause me less panic. It's complicated.
