Insatiable Flirt

[Zazzy]

In what way is flirting supposed to give you an ego boost exactly?


The 3 main motives for flirting could be:
(a) for your own self-esteem
(b) because you actually like the person who you were flirting with
(c) you just want to be in a relationship with someone

The last two are related since if you like that person, then that means that you are flirting because you want to develop a relationship with him, which can also suggest that you are doing this because you don't want to be alone.

However, if you view that flirting is more for the purpose of your own ego boost (through someone else) than actually liking that person, then I think that is kind of a 'forced' ego boost and that's why it is not real, but artificial. You probably wouldn't want to flirt for that reason if you felt that you already had enough self-esteem in the first place. And this kind of volatile ego boost won't last for very long; it is shallow and wanes away quickly.

The whole act is mostly a flattering behavior. You are basically trying to draw attention toward yourself, and then you get a good feeling just out of getting more attention.

Flirting is just fun, Rayaan. If you're doing it right, then it's witty repartee mixed with mutual admiration and a nice case of the "what could have beens" if you're attached. Sure, it's nice to know you're attractive and desirable. It's also nice for the other person. But it should be a chance to mix your intelligence with your sex appeal and have a good time just bantering amusingly with someone you feel some heat with. S'all good if you know where to draw the line.