(February 3, 2014 at 12:47 am)futilethewinds Wrote: It's another example of the patriarchy at work. I admit,
That is the most bullshit and lazy headed excuse of an explanation I've seen all day.
I observed something similar to this pathetic mess last night - turns out that many men and women have no idea how to even talk to the opposite sex.
They're sold ridiculous fantasies that ended up characterizing our tropes - it is much more common to find in the media, our discussions and even our casual stories of our relationships that love simply happens, as if it was born within a vacuum.
You want to understand where men and women and up getting these ridiculous views of "entitled to sex"? Views on the "proper way to do things"?
Sadly it's not just within popular culture.
Did you know you could get a divorce simply based on the fact that you or the other does not have enough sex in the marriage?
It seems intellectually lazy to blame it on "patriarchy".
When you're swamped in a culture of unhealthy relationships, bad behaviors, and unrealistic expectations without even the understanding to talk with another, blaming it upon some buzzword is of the greatest disservice to the understanding of each component and hinders discussion to move forward. How can we focus upon teaching each other?
It's very much like someone desperately attempting to get the last word in an argument and ending up poisoning the entire relationship because "they had to win".
You want to know why I find issues with both self-described men's rights activists and so-called feminists?
Because it is boiled down to a pissing match between extremists on either side, absolutely joyous to label and the deride with their special terminology.
And we all lose.
In the end run there will be lots of men and women living very unhappy lives without even the slightest clue how to engage the opposite sex in a decent discussion... And get to know the other like a human being.
But hey! We can always blame it on the buzzword instead of the myriad sources of bad information, habits, and teachings!
Right!
Slave to the Patriarchy no more
