RE: Just ugh!
February 3, 2014 at 1:49 am
(This post was last modified: February 3, 2014 at 1:50 am by pineapplebunnybounce.)
(February 3, 2014 at 1:38 am)TaraJo Wrote:(February 3, 2014 at 1:23 am)pineapplebunnybounce Wrote: I don't think that's an apt analogy. Is the rich guy the girl? Because in this analogy it sounds like if the rich guy doesn't like the food, he shouldn't complain to someone who has nothing. But if a girl doesn't like a guy who worships her and therefore goes off with someone else, what exactly did she do wrong? What choice does she have? Either she dishonestly stays with someone she doesn't like, or goes off with someone she does like. What would be her equivalent of not complaining to the poor man?
He's talking about not picking the guy who treats you like a queen. Probably all of us have done some equivalent of that in the past.
An apt analogy would be a girl who was really nice to a guy she likes, he picks someone else, one day his girlfriend cheated on him and she goes, yea well you fucking deserve it for not picking me, while thinking she's the nice one. She would be the one who's the "fake friend", but she thinks the guy is being the fake friend for not picking her.
No one forces you to stay friends. People will ask you to stay friends if they really like you as a friend (and yes, that is a real thing). You can always say no.
Well, I'm thinking more along the lines of "it's a douchebag move to complain about not having the right __x__ to someone who doesn't have __x__ at all. Whether that "x" is food or romantic affection, it's still hurtful; especially when you're playing a role in denying them whatever it is they want.
We're not even talking about that. He's just saying, if you don't pick a nice guy, you deserve whatever shit you get from the dude you pick. Which of course is ridiculous because it's 2 separate matters. Whether or not you're attracted to a "nice guy" doesn't mean you deserve some form of retaliation from karma or whatever it is. And I'm obviously not saying all men do this, obviously not all of them, it's really just a small but vocal group (but yea, they definitely exist) who likes to think: ok, fine, go ahead and pick someone else. If he cheats on you, you fucking deserve it, maybe then you'll realize what a good deal you missed out on. All the time thinking they're the nice guy and the girl is the bitch.
How can you be someone's friend and yet expect them to treat you like you're still in love with them? Being friends means trying to be platonic. You can try and fail and say, well, that's that. But if you stay on and people treat you like a friend and trust you with their problems and feelings, don't pretend like they're being the douchebag. You agreed to the deal, you're free to walk away. This is common sense and applies to both men and women who lands in the "friendzone".
