The simple truth

[Jacob(smooth)]

Your own words condemn you.

I'll take a Christian like Jacob over a Christian like yourself any day of the week.

That is what his problem is:

"If you were of the world, the world would love its own. Yet because you are not of the world, but I chose you out of the world, therefore the world hates you." (John 15:19)

Always happy to hear what my problem is

But, to put it in language you're Familier with, I think you need to think about contextualising your witness. Ask yourself, no actually strike that, ask your pastor or support group, whether telling people they are incapable of love is likely to make them more or less receptive to what you have to say. Do you really think anyone is going to read that and say "by giminie he's right! What I feel for my wife / child / brother is NOT love, I need the love of jesus in my life". Is that feeding them "milk"? Is that meeting them where they are? I think not.

There is a difference between being bold and uncompromising in your belief, and being a dickhead.