(June 3, 2014 at 9:23 pm)Dragonetti Wrote:(June 3, 2014 at 9:21 pm)Heywood Wrote: Giving the father the middle finger is counter productive to the goal of having a relationship with him.
Some relationships are not worth keeping.
If the son is not interested in keeping a relationship going with the father, what was the point of this thread? Why didn't the OP title the thread, "I disavowed my douche bag father and here is why".
Its obvious that the son wants to maintain a relationship with his father. However the son is wrong in thinking its all the fathers fault. The father was perfectly willing to talk to the son up until the son called the father a coward and ridiculed his beliefs. Now the son is shocked the father won't engage with him? The son needs to realize that the terms of the relationship are decided by both of them. His father simply isn't going to tolerate the abuse.
The son would have been better off just replying, "If you're going to lay a guilt trip on me, were not going to have a discussion. I love you dad, but I am not going to talk to you on these terms, call me when your able to move past this".
