Strict Parenting

[Gleneere]

You gave to get things together on your own. You're 18 now. And adult. Maybe your parents weren't perfect, but you have to stop allowing that to be even the remotest excuse for you to not get what you want. Life won't hand you anything. You have to go out and get it. And it takes work. The things you do reflect on your name, and your name is priceless. So do things well. Always.

Oh I agree totally. Everything I do is my problem now, I'm not going to blame my parents. On the other hand, I'd say you could call it a bit of a convenience to be given the motivational supplement at the younger age that allowed one to gain more achievements and thus an easier time from ages 18 onwards.

Many of my stereotypical Asian friends were given the gift of a great academic record as a young kid (due to their strict parents), and even if at the age of 18+ we both were to do things perfectly, they'll still be able to perhaps relax at a younger age or just take it a little easier later on.

Again, I'm not here to complain about how terrible my parents were, because they weren't, I'm just asking, do you think it is a good strategy for parents to be more strict than lenient?

Although I was given most things I wanted materially, academically my parents were very hard on me and my brother. My mother more so than my father. Admittedly I do have a bit of a complex about how I view myself.

Would you say this "complex" overshadows any of the accomplishments that your parents' strictness gave you? Did the strict parenting help at all?