(June 10, 2014 at 12:27 am)Gleneere Wrote: I'm going to start off with the fact that my parents are and have always been the opposite of strict. Although I love them to death, I won't get punished worse than doing an extra chore, and the punishment never lasts for longer than a day or two.... The punishment is almost always minor anyway..
My point is, I've always done fine in school but never exceptional because of the "grit" required to accomplish some work.. Basically my only motivation in school was intrinsic because I never had the fear of being punished or even reprimanded.
Many of us know the stereotype of Asians being excellent academically, but my observation has taught me (I knew a lot of so-called stereotypical Asians in high school) that nearly 90% of the reason they do well is because of extrinsic motivation from their parents, family members, other Asian peer pressure, etc.
What I want to know from you guys is whether you think that strict parenting is healthy. I for one feel like I haven't even reached near my potential because I didn't have to. I agree being lenient means a happier life now, but likely a less happy life later on.
I am 18 right now, but for at least 5 years I've been wishing my parents were a little more strict, so that it is that much harder to goof off. I understand the whole concept where I am in control of my life and that only I am accountable for my actions, but at the same time I think it is important to realize just how much we are influenced by those who raise us.
I think that strict parents can create a sort of habit for hard work in us that makes it easier to get down and dirty. This isn't to say I blame my parents for anything, as I'm sure I love them more now then if they were hawk-eye strict, but I also think that it could be super beneficial.
What are your thoughts?
True discipline comes from within. If you wish to do better, structure your actions to achieve that, and do not wish things had been different in your upbringing, because they can never be otherwise than what they are. Own your decisions and pursue your goals.
That is the only way you can own your successes.
