One of my girlfriends married a man who is to say the least physically imposing. He's about 6'4, broad shouldered and barrel chested. He's also an in-your-face sort of guy. They liked to wrestle with and try to pin and/or tickle each other. Many couples do. And typically she ended such bouts with thumb sized bruises on her arms. I've had the same sort and playful wrestling matches with various men and and ended up with the same bruises. And this kind of game often ends in sex. Surprise.
But, my girlfriend's mother saw the bruises and was for several years convinced that some sort of abuse was going on. She knows her son-in-law better now and has changed her mind. The thing is that concealed abuse is common, and well wishers of various sorts can be a pain in the ass trying to expose abuse that isn't there and trying to get the "victim" to admit to being abused.
I wonder at Bad Wolf's girlfriend's mother's involvement. I think in addition to feminism motherly prodding may have had something to do with it.
But, my girlfriend's mother saw the bruises and was for several years convinced that some sort of abuse was going on. She knows her son-in-law better now and has changed her mind. The thing is that concealed abuse is common, and well wishers of various sorts can be a pain in the ass trying to expose abuse that isn't there and trying to get the "victim" to admit to being abused.
I wonder at Bad Wolf's girlfriend's mother's involvement. I think in addition to feminism motherly prodding may have had something to do with it.
If there is a god, I want to believe that there is a god. If there is not a god, I want to believe that there is no god.
