Cluelessness?

[Jenny A]

I inherited the cluelessness gene from my father. He had no idea when other people thought he was being and ass and he would often incense people. I have learned that I as well don't really get it when I say things that piss people off unintentionally.

I have 3 people at work that obviously would love to see me die in a fire, but I don't even know why they are angry. One may be simply angry that I constantly bring defects from his department to him, but that's simply my job, he should understand that. The other two.. I dunno..I'm normally so sweet..

How would I approach my dilemma? Ignore it? Professionally they can't touch me so I have the option of just ignoring it, but the cold shoulders are soo obvious. I doubt they would ever be happy at the sight of me as I am required to audit and effect process changes inside their department. I'm not their boss, but I get to tell them what to do and they can't tell me shit so the relationship is one sided. I think that is the main thing that bugs them, but in my old age I'm getting soft and don't want to work in a nest of enemies.

Ahh, you are my type, i.e. the type I usually end up with (not a bad thing). I wish that that meant I could clue you in, but I can't really. I'm better at this sort of thing than most men but worse than most women.

Asking people why they are angry sometimes disarms them. But don't embarrass them by doing it when others are present unless they are in your way and you really have to annihilate them rather than just smooth out your work environment.