(October 23, 2014 at 11:46 am)Lemonvariable72 Wrote: I think I have a lot of envy in my life, and I'm sick of it. I feel envy for those beautiful people, especially those with good jobs or those in university. I feel envy for those happy couples, especially beautiful ones that seem successful. People who drive around in nicer cars, while I get the bus to a 11 dollar an hour job. I have no idea why I should envious of these people, as what has happened to me is a result of my own decisions, and it hasn't turned out so bad. Maybe its because what these people have is what I so desperately crave. I want the nice house, the nice car, the pretty girlfriend. Maybe when someone feels jealousy or envy it speaks more to the person feeling it then it does the object. Just some people make it look so easy. Thankfully I have a plan this time to be successful, two actually. I hope it goes well. Does anyone else feel this way?
Envy is an ugly emotion to deal with and we have all dealt with it at one time or another. I think that you are right that it speaks more to the person feeling it than it does the object of envy. There are two choices: to wish the other person down in the dirt with you; or to wish yourself better off.
It sounds to me like you have chosen the positive choice with your envy, i.e. accepting responsibility for your position and planning for a better personal future.
I understand that there are certain things in life we just can't realistically expect to achieve even though others have them and may even have been born with them. Envying that kind of good fortune is hard to deal with, because you can't expect to have it ever. That's an emotion it's better to find away to switch off. For myself, enjoying what I have with renewed attention is the only way to do that I know of to deal with that one.
If there is a god, I want to believe that there is a god. If there is not a god, I want to believe that there is no god.
