a question of partners

[fojo]

I would consider this need to shut out important parts of my personality out of the relationship and the family unacceptable in the long run. If the relationship hopefully works out indefinitely, this is supposed to become your family, isn't it, and as things stand, you are not yet accepted in it as you are. I understand the agreement, the question is, can you live with it in the long run. Of course, how long are you expected to keep this up anyhow? I mean, the kids get older and it is not an acceptable demand to hide your thoughts from them indefinitely when they grow up.

The idea being that I would hold off until they were old enough to make up their own mind. Maybe 10 or 11 is how it's always been talked about