Letting go

[abaris]

There's certainly no easy way and no fast track if you're emotinally attached to a person.

I had to let go several times. My father and my mother dying would be pretty obvious, but within two months of my father's death, my best friend also passed away. Totally unexpected and still in his 30ies. Sometimes I still dream of my parents, but my best friend virtually haunted my dreams with me always trying to warn him about his impending death and never being able to.

Letting go of people, who are still alive is sometimes easier or sometimes harder. One of my friends and I simply drifted apart at some times. No hard feelings, but also no feelings of loss. Another one was pretty difficult for me. One day we were chatting away on the phone and from the next day on he simply didn't answer my calls anymore. Nothing had happened, he simply cut the contact without giving any reason. That's really hard to this day, although two years have passed since then.

If we're talking lovers, it's a very different matter. Letting go of some was hard, letting go of others, wasn't so hard after all.