Doing what is necessary to protect yourself and your children is paramount.
As far as getting past those feelings, that's not what life's about. You don't do things to make feelings go away. You experience these feelings and process them. Part of the problem is we condition ourselves to feel guilty about having negative feelings after a certain amount of time has passed. It's okay to feel shitty about closing off some abusive family members. That's a shitty situation. But if it's what is best for you, and will make you happier and more capable of taking care of your children, then that's the thing you do. No question. You just have to be sad for a while. It will get better if you actually process the feelings.
As far as getting past those feelings, that's not what life's about. You don't do things to make feelings go away. You experience these feelings and process them. Part of the problem is we condition ourselves to feel guilty about having negative feelings after a certain amount of time has passed. It's okay to feel shitty about closing off some abusive family members. That's a shitty situation. But if it's what is best for you, and will make you happier and more capable of taking care of your children, then that's the thing you do. No question. You just have to be sad for a while. It will get better if you actually process the feelings.
"There remain four irreducible objections to religious faith: that it wholly misrepresents the origins of man and the cosmos, that because of this original error it manages to combine the maximum servility with the maximum of solipsism, that it is both the result and the cause of dangerous sexual repression, and that it is ultimately grounded on wish-thinking." ~Christopher Hitchens, god is not Great
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