RE: Sexodus?!?
December 9, 2014 at 4:19 pm
(This post was last modified: December 9, 2014 at 4:25 pm by Dystopia.)
Yes blame it on feminists and completely forget how much male privileged you are. I'm a male and there is nothing wrong in admitting I have privilege, and female privileges are actually insignificant compared to the ones I've got. The vast majority of feminists are rational people who simply want gender equality, most of them are against chivalry and DON'T want female privilege (like males feeling obligated to pay dinner just to give you an example), they just want legal, social and ethical gender equality, nothing else, nothing more. Feminazis are a really small minority but unfortunately sites like 9gag and reddit are filled with angry males (nice guys) who think feminism is threatening their lives because their females friends said something like 'I don't owe you sex for opening the door for me'.
You don't like feminists? How can you blame them? Just check out these facts?
- Women are more likely to be raped, suffer domestic violence and sexual abuse. Rapists are not sentenced and get away with it many times - It's not about harsher sentences, but the mere fact most rapists never get caught.. Although some men say domestic violence exists against males it is nowhere as serious and it doesn't excuse domestic violence against females, it's not a fucking competition. Not to mention judges consider rapists less guilty by certain factors like "a very large sexual desire" or "being slightly drunk". Rape statistics that say false rape accusations are very predominant are a scam, they are as serious as false accusations for other crimes
- Talking about rape, let's not forget victim blaming and excusing rapists (what feminists call "rape culture) - "Oh she was wearing a short dress, she was asking for it"/"She was drunk, what was she expecting"/"Men will be men we have sexual desires". Do you really think men are genetically born with an uncontrollable rape desire? Of course not, it's social sexual entitlement to women's bodies and the feeling of power that makes men rape. If "men will be men", why have I (a male) never catcalled or sexually abused any woman? Perhaps because I'm not an animal and I control myself, and so do others. Instead of teaching women to avoid getting raped, teach people who rape to not rape.
- Slut shaming - Done by men, by women, by all society, everyone will judge you by the way you dress, dear ladies, and if you dress something short, not only will you hear people saying "I'd bang that/Hey sweetie nice boobs" but also "You dressed like a slut, you should expect to be treated as one".
- Catcalling and street harassment - Affects mostly females because males think of them as sex objects, public property to be looked and commented as if you had any business to comment on how good or bad a stranger looks - I was taught from the beginning that it's rude and a lack of courtesy to comment strangers, men or women, so don't do it. It's not "men will be men", it's common courtesy - If I don't do it, will would you? It's none of our business, just because a woman dresses in a certain way you have no right to comment like she was public property to be starred at and please you - Have you ever wondered if the person suffered sexual assault and how frightening it may feel to be catcalled?
- Male sexual entitlement - From childhood, we are subconsciously taught that men should be dominant and "manly", all that bullshit and that women should be feminine and submissive, wait for the charming prince and let him protect her. This hurts both sexes to the point when a male being raped is considered a reason to joke and males are laughed at for being sexually assaulted, because that's not a manly thing, getting pounded in the ass is "gay" and all that and real males should "go after pussy".
- Media - I have nothing against the sex industry, I love many kinds of porn, I have nothing against prostitutes, it's everyone's freedom to work in the industry, but please stop the abuse of female prostitutes and female porn actresses - Oh and make porn a little more about mutual pleasure, mainstream porn has started to bore me since I started having real sex and saw how unrealistic it was. Many film studios still have problem making female characters in movies and TV series that are not all about boobs and ass - I have no problem with boobs and ass, but some fair representation with deep female characters would be great (there already is some, but there's still a long way to go), and the same applies to videogames and other forms of media, art and entertainment. Again, nothing against modelling, prostitution or using your body to provide a service, but when comparing male pictures and movies with females, we see that males are portrayed (even models) as strong with lots of muscles and in a body posture that resembles manliness, while females are put in a position to resemble submission and a part of the body (boobs and ass usually) is highlighted because that's the important - It's called sexual objectification, look it up. I am lucky that as a male my gender is highly represented in all forms of media respectfully and I'm not included in any movie merely because "I have a nice body" and I make a nice souvenir, male characters are deep and complex, not shallow and poorly designed/created (this doesn't apply to all female portrayals the media makes, some are very good and remarkable - For example I enjoy Debra from the "Dexter" series, she isn't overly sexualized and had good character development)
- Wage gap is not merely a myth - It's true that females pick less well payed areas (like primary school education) - But have you every wondered why? Why so few women want to be politicians, neurologists (more well paid than pediatricians), engineers and architects? Why do women go for less paid courses? Because they are genetically connected to them? Of course not, that's silly, it's because they don't want to go for a male dominated field, because they've grown up seeing subconsciously those higher paying jobs as "Men's jobs", either because that's what parents told them or because most females go for other areas and that's "a more feminine job to have", many high paying jobs are seen as male oriented and females don't feel like going for them, when they could have gone. From childhood they are taught indirectly that these jobs are "Man stuff" and "women should stay out of politics because they let their emotions take the best of them". I'm not even going to mention that in male oriented fields employers are more likely to choose a male character simply because he is male (with the same qualifications) and sexual harassment in the workplace that targets mostly women. By the way, if the wage gap is a myth, why do latinas and black women (or other women of colour) earn on average less than white women)
- War kills men (Soldiers) - But let's not forget that war is almost always started by male politicians. When women are in a warzone, what do you think happens to them? They are raped, beaten and sold to sexual slavery by enemy soldiers, war doesn't affect males only as some people might want you to think
- The female privileges are offensive to women because all of them (like a man feeling obligated to support her) are based on the assumption that women are weaker and need protection. I've quit chivalry and decided to be polite to everyone around me, not only my girlfriend, and the reason that motivates me should be the same - I want to be a good role model as a citizen. The reason why I pay dinner for her more often is because I literally have more financial wealth than her, otherwise she would pay more than me
I'm sorry by the angry rant, but it's childish to let these issues go away when I'm a male and have been privileged my whole life compared to my fellow females. So - Do you really think feminists are the problem? Or perhaps the problem is society - Both male and females contribute to our problems (female contribute to sexism too, just see the case of women slut shaming others and female rivalry and hate)
When I realized all of this, I noticed how I was used to gender privilege to the point when I considered "sexism" to be normal and thought feminists were all angry "bitches". I have never been so wrong.
The point is, let's not blame it on women and label all feminists as feminazis when most of them are clearly not, in fact they are quite the opposite, as I said they want to erase female benefits too. Stop whining and do something.
You don't like feminists? How can you blame them? Just check out these facts?
- Women are more likely to be raped, suffer domestic violence and sexual abuse. Rapists are not sentenced and get away with it many times - It's not about harsher sentences, but the mere fact most rapists never get caught.. Although some men say domestic violence exists against males it is nowhere as serious and it doesn't excuse domestic violence against females, it's not a fucking competition. Not to mention judges consider rapists less guilty by certain factors like "a very large sexual desire" or "being slightly drunk". Rape statistics that say false rape accusations are very predominant are a scam, they are as serious as false accusations for other crimes
- Talking about rape, let's not forget victim blaming and excusing rapists (what feminists call "rape culture) - "Oh she was wearing a short dress, she was asking for it"/"She was drunk, what was she expecting"/"Men will be men we have sexual desires". Do you really think men are genetically born with an uncontrollable rape desire? Of course not, it's social sexual entitlement to women's bodies and the feeling of power that makes men rape. If "men will be men", why have I (a male) never catcalled or sexually abused any woman? Perhaps because I'm not an animal and I control myself, and so do others. Instead of teaching women to avoid getting raped, teach people who rape to not rape.
- Slut shaming - Done by men, by women, by all society, everyone will judge you by the way you dress, dear ladies, and if you dress something short, not only will you hear people saying "I'd bang that/Hey sweetie nice boobs" but also "You dressed like a slut, you should expect to be treated as one".
- Catcalling and street harassment - Affects mostly females because males think of them as sex objects, public property to be looked and commented as if you had any business to comment on how good or bad a stranger looks - I was taught from the beginning that it's rude and a lack of courtesy to comment strangers, men or women, so don't do it. It's not "men will be men", it's common courtesy - If I don't do it, will would you? It's none of our business, just because a woman dresses in a certain way you have no right to comment like she was public property to be starred at and please you - Have you ever wondered if the person suffered sexual assault and how frightening it may feel to be catcalled?
- Male sexual entitlement - From childhood, we are subconsciously taught that men should be dominant and "manly", all that bullshit and that women should be feminine and submissive, wait for the charming prince and let him protect her. This hurts both sexes to the point when a male being raped is considered a reason to joke and males are laughed at for being sexually assaulted, because that's not a manly thing, getting pounded in the ass is "gay" and all that and real males should "go after pussy".
- Media - I have nothing against the sex industry, I love many kinds of porn, I have nothing against prostitutes, it's everyone's freedom to work in the industry, but please stop the abuse of female prostitutes and female porn actresses - Oh and make porn a little more about mutual pleasure, mainstream porn has started to bore me since I started having real sex and saw how unrealistic it was. Many film studios still have problem making female characters in movies and TV series that are not all about boobs and ass - I have no problem with boobs and ass, but some fair representation with deep female characters would be great (there already is some, but there's still a long way to go), and the same applies to videogames and other forms of media, art and entertainment. Again, nothing against modelling, prostitution or using your body to provide a service, but when comparing male pictures and movies with females, we see that males are portrayed (even models) as strong with lots of muscles and in a body posture that resembles manliness, while females are put in a position to resemble submission and a part of the body (boobs and ass usually) is highlighted because that's the important - It's called sexual objectification, look it up. I am lucky that as a male my gender is highly represented in all forms of media respectfully and I'm not included in any movie merely because "I have a nice body" and I make a nice souvenir, male characters are deep and complex, not shallow and poorly designed/created (this doesn't apply to all female portrayals the media makes, some are very good and remarkable - For example I enjoy Debra from the "Dexter" series, she isn't overly sexualized and had good character development)
- Wage gap is not merely a myth - It's true that females pick less well payed areas (like primary school education) - But have you every wondered why? Why so few women want to be politicians, neurologists (more well paid than pediatricians), engineers and architects? Why do women go for less paid courses? Because they are genetically connected to them? Of course not, that's silly, it's because they don't want to go for a male dominated field, because they've grown up seeing subconsciously those higher paying jobs as "Men's jobs", either because that's what parents told them or because most females go for other areas and that's "a more feminine job to have", many high paying jobs are seen as male oriented and females don't feel like going for them, when they could have gone. From childhood they are taught indirectly that these jobs are "Man stuff" and "women should stay out of politics because they let their emotions take the best of them". I'm not even going to mention that in male oriented fields employers are more likely to choose a male character simply because he is male (with the same qualifications) and sexual harassment in the workplace that targets mostly women. By the way, if the wage gap is a myth, why do latinas and black women (or other women of colour) earn on average less than white women)
- War kills men (Soldiers) - But let's not forget that war is almost always started by male politicians. When women are in a warzone, what do you think happens to them? They are raped, beaten and sold to sexual slavery by enemy soldiers, war doesn't affect males only as some people might want you to think
- The female privileges are offensive to women because all of them (like a man feeling obligated to support her) are based on the assumption that women are weaker and need protection. I've quit chivalry and decided to be polite to everyone around me, not only my girlfriend, and the reason that motivates me should be the same - I want to be a good role model as a citizen. The reason why I pay dinner for her more often is because I literally have more financial wealth than her, otherwise she would pay more than me
I'm sorry by the angry rant, but it's childish to let these issues go away when I'm a male and have been privileged my whole life compared to my fellow females. So - Do you really think feminists are the problem? Or perhaps the problem is society - Both male and females contribute to our problems (female contribute to sexism too, just see the case of women slut shaming others and female rivalry and hate)
When I realized all of this, I noticed how I was used to gender privilege to the point when I considered "sexism" to be normal and thought feminists were all angry "bitches". I have never been so wrong.
The point is, let's not blame it on women and label all feminists as feminazis when most of them are clearly not, in fact they are quite the opposite, as I said they want to erase female benefits too. Stop whining and do something.
Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you
