(December 19, 2014 at 2:58 pm)Faith No More Wrote: Apparently, she got the idea that "yes, you can take our son to church" meant "yes, you can raise our son Christian." I told her that what I meant was that she was allowed to take him to church and show him what she believed, not that she could just unleash Jesus upon him. I explained to her that our beliefs need to be treated on equal ground as parents and that both of us need to ensure that we approach our son with our viewpoints as beliefs, not truth.
The really frustrating part was that she had this look on her face the whole time like I was telling her that I just ran over her puppy in the driveway, and even though she knew I was right, there was resistance to having her religious beliefs treated as equal with mine. Just like Christians everywhere, she expected her beliefs to have special privilege.
This is pretty much exactly what happened with my son's mother. She and her side of the family basically took carte blanche to give him Christian children's books and otherwise indoctrinate him - before he was capable of critical thinking.
We're not together any more. The funny thing is, she didn't turn fundamentalist on me until after he was born. For the first ten years of our marriage, I knew she was nominally a Christian, but the only time she ever set foot in a church was for our wedding (and that was a wedding chapel, not an active church).
Had I known she would pull that shit, I never would have married her. It's not why we aren't together any longer, but it was a contributing factor.
It's a really shitty thing to do to your partner, and your child.
