RE: Laziness/lack of motivation.
January 10, 2015 at 12:37 pm
(This post was last modified: January 10, 2015 at 12:42 pm by Regina.)
I've not had schizophrenia, but I have had mild depression. As a side-product of that, I have had severe procrastination issues before. So in this regard I can sort of relate to what you are saying. I can't give medical advice but I can talk from my experience. I'm still overcoming it myself and it's a journey I'm learning as I go along, but I'm definitely improving my attitude.
The first step really is to recognise you have the problem, which I think you have already done by making this thread. Being in denial that it's a problem means you can't address her the way she needs addressing. Also don't feel guilty or beat yourself up, many people go through this and you have to be easy with yourself. Making yourself feel bad is only going to put pressure on you.
I'm going to say take it a step at a time. You have goals, in that you want to go finish your degree and hit the gym. I think society has this way of only showing us the finished product - which in your case would be a ripped men's health model on his graduation day. It leaves you not knowing where to start, when really what you need to do is break down the goal into a series of manageable chunks that you can work towards individually.
Start with the small stuff you can change immediately, that isn't too intimidating. This will help you claw back some feeling of control, and improve your confidence for the big stuff. If there's anything you know you can study for your degree, even if you haven't signed up again yet, hit the internet and have a read, you will gain confidence in the knowledge you'll find and hopefully this will make you feel more ready to go back. Just do 15 minutes to begin with, you may get really into it and carry on working, or you might slump. Everyone does that occasionally, it's nothing to feel ashamed about.
Also going to the gym once or twice a week isn't bad at all. I manage 4 times on a good week, I find actually having a contract/membership with the gym makes me more motivated to go, since I'm losing money if I don't.
The first step really is to recognise you have the problem, which I think you have already done by making this thread. Being in denial that it's a problem means you can't address her the way she needs addressing. Also don't feel guilty or beat yourself up, many people go through this and you have to be easy with yourself. Making yourself feel bad is only going to put pressure on you.
I'm going to say take it a step at a time. You have goals, in that you want to go finish your degree and hit the gym. I think society has this way of only showing us the finished product - which in your case would be a ripped men's health model on his graduation day. It leaves you not knowing where to start, when really what you need to do is break down the goal into a series of manageable chunks that you can work towards individually.
Start with the small stuff you can change immediately, that isn't too intimidating. This will help you claw back some feeling of control, and improve your confidence for the big stuff. If there's anything you know you can study for your degree, even if you haven't signed up again yet, hit the internet and have a read, you will gain confidence in the knowledge you'll find and hopefully this will make you feel more ready to go back. Just do 15 minutes to begin with, you may get really into it and carry on working, or you might slump. Everyone does that occasionally, it's nothing to feel ashamed about.
Also going to the gym once or twice a week isn't bad at all. I manage 4 times on a good week, I find actually having a contract/membership with the gym makes me more motivated to go, since I'm losing money if I don't.
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"Ironically like the nativist far-Right, which despises multiculturalism, but benefits from its ideas of difference to scapegoat the other and to promote its own white identity politics; these postmodernists, leftists, feminists and liberals also use multiculturalism, to side with the oppressor, by demanding respect and tolerance for oppression characterised as 'difference', no matter how intolerable." - Maryam Namazie
