RE: Any advice?
January 14, 2015 at 3:05 am
(This post was last modified: January 14, 2015 at 3:06 am by Alex K.)
Hi Roxy!
Many smart things have already been said.
One thought that came to my mind, you be the judge whether it's relevant to you - she says she is disappointed that you reject what she was trying to instill in you. Now, specific beliefs are a very personal thing, does she really want to instill those in you? Or is it more about general values which she wants you to share with her, and which she, in her head, does not clearly separate from details of catholic doctrine because she's not used to doing so? Since she already lives with a man (I assume, your dad) who has quite different beliefs from her, my hope would be that the specifics of catholic faith are actually less important to her than the general christian spirit of compassion, family values etc. which she associates with being catholic. If that were the case, you could let her know that while you have your problems with accepting the truth of all these specifics of her faith, God, virgin Mary and the saints, what have you, that she has taught you a lot of other things about being a good person along the way, and that doesn't change even if you're not exactly in line with everything catholic doctrine tells you. Of course I'm bending over backwards here, because I think much of Christianity, and in particular Catholicism is toxic and actually a hindrance for acting ethically, but that's maybe a topic for some other time.
Now, concerning private catholic HS - it very much depends on which one and where it is, but with a bit of luck you can get an excellent education there, and no abuse. If you're unlucky... well...
Many smart things have already been said.
One thought that came to my mind, you be the judge whether it's relevant to you - she says she is disappointed that you reject what she was trying to instill in you. Now, specific beliefs are a very personal thing, does she really want to instill those in you? Or is it more about general values which she wants you to share with her, and which she, in her head, does not clearly separate from details of catholic doctrine because she's not used to doing so? Since she already lives with a man (I assume, your dad) who has quite different beliefs from her, my hope would be that the specifics of catholic faith are actually less important to her than the general christian spirit of compassion, family values etc. which she associates with being catholic. If that were the case, you could let her know that while you have your problems with accepting the truth of all these specifics of her faith, God, virgin Mary and the saints, what have you, that she has taught you a lot of other things about being a good person along the way, and that doesn't change even if you're not exactly in line with everything catholic doctrine tells you. Of course I'm bending over backwards here, because I think much of Christianity, and in particular Catholicism is toxic and actually a hindrance for acting ethically, but that's maybe a topic for some other time.
Now, concerning private catholic HS - it very much depends on which one and where it is, but with a bit of luck you can get an excellent education there, and no abuse. If you're unlucky... well...
The fool hath said in his heart, There is a God. They are corrupt, they have done abominable works, there is none that doeth good.
Psalm 14, KJV revised edition
